Coren, on 24 December 2012 - 05:23 PM, said:
I always seemed to intimidate girls my age, (I'm 2.03 meters tall) and being blond doesn't help either, girls, at least back then, wanted the Latino look, which means being 1.73 max and dark hair. When you're a teenager, these details really matter and it's only later that things change.
Bottom line, I tend to believe that love is decided by the heart, but only a worthwhile love if your head does the definitive yes.
Had a girlfriend when I was 20 odd, before my life changing stay in the Netherlands. Was great but I could see there was no future, and she just wanted someone to be a dad to her, which wasn't me.
To everyone who thinks they're too ugly to be interesting, bear in mind that more girls and guys become less shallow with age and are interested more in a nice loving person than the 1 dimensional sports champion at 18.
I just read this and I can't help but wonder what kinds of girls you try to go for since they seem to all not like that you're tall and blonde? You're basically explaining much of the wet dreams of average 15-25 year old womens dream guy. All you need to do is just tan a little bit, you know the beach look. But maybe that's just what I'm used to girls always wanting. I live in Norway, and Scandinavia is pretty much where you would get a ton of girls. That of course doesn't mean all, as you have girls who don't like that kind of look, obviously.
I just get the feeling you may be one of those kinds of guys who go for completely wrong type of girl. Either that or you take peoples chatter too close to heart. That's not me trying to be mean. I used to think all guys only wanted big titted blonde women, pref with a tan. And it pissed me so much off, and made me really insecure about myself. Then I realized I was interested in the wrong kind of guys, the shallow ones who purely care about one thing in their relationship, that their girlfriend is pleasing to the eye.
You need to realize that being tall is one of the most beautiful things in this world. I am a woman who's 178cm tall, and I've always been concious because honestly, being a girl who is always taller than your boyfriend I think is much worse. Because trust me, there's a lot of guys out there who are 173cm, and cannot deal with having a girlfriend that is taller than them, and are crazy concious about it. I've been in that kind of relationship, it was abusive because of all of his insecurity he had to project into me to feel better about him self.
I think it has different stages. I think when you are young, love is intoxicating, it's wonderful but so painful at the same time. It makes you obsessed but you love it and it's mutual. When you get older it becomes a more deeper and powerful thing. It makes you feel warm and happy, it makes you see a future with this person. That's how it is for me anyway.
And with the whole thing about being ugly and you can't get anyone interested... I think that's a load of BS. That uglyness is only your insecurity. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Edited by Cube, 24 December 2012 - 10:19 PM.